13. We Can Work It Out

"Peace is a never-ending process, the work of many decisions by many people in many countries. It is an attitude, a way of life, a way of solving problems and resolving conflicts. It cannot be forced on the smallest nation or enforced by the largest. It cannot ignore our differences or overlook our common interests. It requires us to work and live together." -- Oscar Arias

Conflicts will always happen, but the way we deal with them can make all the difference. We can choose to transform a potentially explosive situation into a time of growth. The basis of peaceful conflict resolution is realizing we are part of a community, and if we try, we can find a way that BOTH SIDES CAN WIN.

The first step to solving a problem peacefully is to AGREE to try to solve the problem. Both sides must agree to treat each other with respect. Each must have an opportunity to express their point of view about what the problem is. Both must listen and try to understand the other's point of view.

Then, both sides try to come up with as many possible solutions as they can, in which both benefit. Examine each possibility; then try combining some to see if any of the solutions would be practical and fair for both sides. Finally, come up with a specific plan that you agree to try to implement together.

It may take time and a lot of practice, but each effort to strive for peaceful relationships is a victory. As long as we don't accept defeat, and we resolve ourselves to keep trying to heal relationships that aren't flowing smoothly, we are winning a battle for peace.